“We need all the ladders we can get” : Using Snakes and Ladders as a tool for exploring experiences of leaving prostitution.
In 2015 Beyond the Streets Trustee, Dr Katie Thorlby, completed her Phd thesis Global Perspectives on Sustainable Exit from Prostitution. In this thesis she explored the process of exiting prostitution, based on research she carried out with social enterprises supporting women to leave prostitution in India and the US. This pioneering resource ‘We need all the ladders we can get’ is the fruit of her research, a practical tool that enables women, and those working with them, to explore what helps and hinders women as they work towards a sustainable exit from prostitution.
The resource is designed to facilitate exploration of how individuals leave prostitution and uses the game of snakes and ladders to do this. The resource can be used by support organisations working with those involved in prostitution; it can be used by individuals who themselves are seeking to leave prostitution and want to share understandings of the challenges faced and the sources of support that have been beneficial; and it can be used as an educational or training tool with volunteers, service delivery staff or students seeking to gain a deeper understanding of the process of exiting prostitution.
The resource can be used to explore an individual’s personal circumstances or it can be used in a more generic manner, without being related specifically to personal experience.
It comes with examples on how to run workshops using the tool as well as a range of additional material to allow you to tailor the workshops to your own contexts, including headline findings from the PhD and quotes from the women who took part in the research.
Get your copy of We need all the ladders we can get.
♦ Download your copy of the resource here.
♦ Request a printed copy of the resource by email. Printed copies of the resource come at a cost of £25, plus postage.
♦ Read the doctoral research which inspired the resource Global Perspectives on Sustainable Exit from Prostitution.
♦ Explore further training. Beyond the Streets develop and equip projects and professionals across the UK by offering specialist training that enable professionals to better support women involved in prostitution. Contact us if your organisation would like us to deliver training based on this resource.
Katie Thorlby (PhD Durham) joined the Beyond the Streets board of trustees in January 2010 after carrying out an eleven month internship with the charity. She has previously volunteered at Door of Hope, working with women involved in street prostitution in East London. In 2015 she completed her doctoral research exploring social enterprise approaches adopted by faith-based projects supporting women to leave prostitution. Katie currently works as a researcher in the UK charity sector
When I first began volunteering with the Beyond The Streets team, a member of staff recommended that I read Rachel Lloyd’s memoir ‘Girls Like Us’. I made a note of it but was in no rush. Little did I anticipate the tour-de-force that would have me devouring the pages, only to eke out the last few chapters to stave off reaching the end. I was humbled; not just by Lloyd’s own harrowing story but her ability to incorporate compelling true narratives with hard facts and statistics about the sex trade. ‘Girls Like Us’ is the perfect balance of head and heart.
Interspersed are accounts of Lloyd’s own troubled childhood. From a somewhat idyllic start with a doting mother, life begins to spiral out of control when the man whom Rachel assumes is her father, comes back into their lives. An abusive and violent alcoholic, Lloyd’s mother also develops a drinking problem in order to cope with his tirades. Young Rachel’s relationship with her mum doesn’t improve with his eventual departure and becomes one characterised by neglect. The daughter assumes the role of guardian, dropping out of school to bring in an income and doing her best to intercept her mother’s attempts to kill herself.
By the time Rachel is living in Germany in her mid-late teens, she has already suffered violent sexual assault at the hands of different men. A perfect storm of straitened circumstances, no means of going back home and those all too willing to exploit a one-time-model’s looks, she lives through a terrifying experience at the mercy of drug-addled and paranoid boyfriends-turned-pimps. Tired of their murderous threats (Lloyd goes as far as making arrangements for her funeral and to inform her colleagues in advance of the likely perpetrator), the last of several suicide attempts proves -thank God- unsuccessful.
Surprised and grateful to still be alive, she wanders through the doors of a church on an American army base and begins the long, ongoing road to recovery. This will lead to her moving to the States and starting her own New York-based project, Girls Education and Mentoring Services (GEMS), supporting young women who have been sexually exploited. She also picks up Bachelors and Masters degrees along the way.
Lloyd boldly takes apart the glamorised images of the sex trade encouraged by some. The author challenges the myths and misperceptions around selling sex as well as the contempt for these girls and women by the authorities and the wider public. Along with others engaged in the battle against sexual exploitation, she is determined to change the lexicon around the subject. ‘Prostitution’ denotes an element of choice that does not reflect the limited agency and complex factors that are at play in the majority of cases, especially for minors. Lloyd is at pains to explain the strong emotional, psychological and even financial ties the girls feel towards those who have exploited them and which makes it even harder to leave for good.
Yet amazingly, the author achieves all this without being sanctimonious. The reader feels better informed rather than sermonised.
‘…One well-known advocate for the sex industry…was actually introduced to the life at the age of 14 after running away from an abusive home. She was a commercially sexually exploited child “trained”…from an early age. Yet because she is not black or Hispanic, because she was not sold on the dark corners of Hunts Point; because she appeared to be on the upper rungs of the “hierarchy” of the sex industry, that much-lauded fantasy world of the escort/call girl, her experience has never been framed as child exploitation or even questioned by the media and general public who continue to enjoy and support the idea that there are some forms of the sex industry that aren’t harmful, that women actually like it, that men’s “participation” in the industry is inevitable and may actually support the women’s career goals. It’s ideas like this that rationalise the continued buying and selling of women and girls…Just because an individual experience has not been difficult, painful or disempowering doesn’t make it true for millions of women and children around the world. The sex industry isn’t about choice; it’s about lack of choices. It’s critical for children and youth, and even many adult women within the sex industry, that we use language that frames it accurately…’ (page 219).
Lloyd’s memoir is essential reading, whether or not you feel a particular connection to the subject. This is a worldwide social epidemic and we would do well to understand its complexities; if nothing else to make us more alert to what might be going on under our noses.
Lloyd’s resilience makers her more than a survivor or even the fitting, but now clichéd, inspiration. She’s a walking miracle and whether or not they realise it, so are all those who have been down a similar path and lived to tell the tale, regardless of where they are in the recovery process. Even those yet to begin.
This blog was contributed by Tola Ositelu, a volunteer, supporter and friend of Beyond the Streets.
‘Girls Like Us’ by Rachel Lloyd. Harper Perennial Edition 2012, Harper Collins Publishers: New York. Buy the book here.
This Guide is for local community organisations working with those in prostitution by offering support and routes out. With nearly 20 years experience in the sector, and with collective input from established projects, we want to save you time and energy so that you can work more effectively with those affected by prostitution in the UK. New Edition – May 2016
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Posted by Beyond The Streets on 20/10/2015 at 01:23 PM
Prostitution is extensively researched yet despite the amount of research that has been carried out there has, until recently, been little focus on how people leave prostitution. The recently published PhD thesis of Katie Thorlby contributes to closing this gap in our knowledge.
Over the course of the last 3 ½ years, Katie, a trustee of Beyond the Streets, has been carrying out a PhD investigating the process of exiting prostitution through an exploration of faith-based projects that support women to leave prostitution through the operation of social enterprises. The research is based on data from an internet mapping study and ethnographic research with two case studies, a project in India and a project in the US, both of which are running social enterprises. The thesis examines the nature of such projects; how they support women to exit prostitution; how the social enterprise models employed by these projects operate; the role of faith in the nature and work of such projects; and the experiences of the women engaging with these projects. You can read the full thesis here: http://etheses.dur.ac.uk/11072/
Resources for practitioners based on the findings of the research are currently being developed and will be made available in the coming months.
Posted by Beyond The Streets on 21/07/2015 at 12:02 PM
This guideline has been created with the intention that it would encourage those working with vulnerable and exploited people to think through how they ‘use’ people’s stories and how they communicate these stories to others in an ethical and sensitive manner, always portraying the people they work with in a dignified and respectful manner.
The organisations and institutions that work with the exploited and the vulnerable can often act as a window between ‘mainstream’ society and the people they work with.
Windows can often distort reality or create a different picture depending on what glass is put into the frame, how the structure of the window is created and what the window chooses to point towards. Similarly organisations can have a similar influence and consequently need to take the time to consider carefully the people they represent, their feelings and emotions about a situation, and the impact of how the organisation chooses to represent this group of people.